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Table of contents
Introduction
The Feminine Mind-1
The War Between the Sexes-2.1
The War Between the Sexes-2.2
The War Between the Sexes-2.3
Marriage-3.1
Marriage-3.2
Marriage-3.3
Marriage-3.4
Woman Suffrage-4.1
Woman Suffrage-4.2
Woman Suffrage-4.3
Woman Suffrage-4.4
The New Age-5.1
The New Age-5.2
The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana. INTRODUCTION
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-1-2
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-1-2
OF SEXUAL UNION-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-6-7-8
OF SEXUAL UNION-10-11
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-3-4-5
ABOUT A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-3-4
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-5-6
ABOUT COURTESANS-1-2
ABOUT COURTESANS-3-4
ABOUT COURTESANS-5-6
ABOUT THE MEANS OF ATTRACTING OTHERS TO YOURSELF-1-2
CONCLUDING REMARKS

fact that he is their father, nor can she help feeling guilty about 

it; for she knows that he is their father only by reason of her own 

initiative in the proceedings anterior to her marriage. If, now, an 

opportunity presents itself to remove that handicap from at least some 

of them, and at the same time to realize her ideal and satisfy her 

vanity--if such a chance offers it is no wonder that she occasionally 

embraces it. 

 

Here we have an explanation of many lamentable and otherwise 

inexplicable violations of domestic integrity. The woman in the case is 

commonly dismissed as vicious, but that is no more than a new example 

of the common human tendency to attach the concept of viciousness to 

whatever is natural, and intelligent, and above the comprehension of 

politicians, theologians and green-grocers. 

 

 

 

 

24. Intermezzo on Monogamy 

 

 

The prevalence of monogamy in Christendom is commonly ascribed to 

ethical motives. This is quite as absurd as ascribing wars to ethical 

motives which is, of course, frequently done. The simple truth is that 

ethical motives are no more than deductions from experience, and that 

they are quickly abandoned whenever experience turns against them. 

In the present case experience is still overwhelming on the side of 

monogamy; civilized men are in favour of it because they find that it 

works. And why does it work? Because it is the most effective of all 

available antidotes to the alarms and terrors of passion. Monogamy, 

in brief, kills passion--and passion is the most dangerous of all the 

surviving enemies to what we call civilization, which is based upon 

order, decorum, restraint, formality, industry, regimentation. The 

civilized man--the ideal civilized man--is simply one who never 

sacrifices the common security to his private passions. He reaches 

perfection when he even ceases to love passionately--when he reduces 

the most profound of all his instinctive experience from the level of 

an ecstasy to the level of a mere device for replenishing armies and 

workshops of the world, keeping clothes in repair, reducing the infant 

death-rate, providing enough tenants for every landlord, and making it 

possible for the Polizei to know where every citizen is at any hour of 

the day or night. Monogamy accomplishes this, not by producing satiety, 

but by destroying appetite. It makes passion formal and uninspiring, and 

so gradually kills it. 

 

The advocates of monogamy, deceived by its moral overtones, fail to get 


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