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Introduction
The Feminine Mind-1
The War Between the Sexes-2.1
The War Between the Sexes-2.2
The War Between the Sexes-2.3
Marriage-3.1
Marriage-3.2
Marriage-3.3
Marriage-3.4
Woman Suffrage-4.1
Woman Suffrage-4.2
Woman Suffrage-4.3
Woman Suffrage-4.4
The New Age-5.1
The New Age-5.2
The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana. INTRODUCTION
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-1-2
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-1-2
OF SEXUAL UNION-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-6-7-8
OF SEXUAL UNION-10-11
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-3-4-5
ABOUT A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-3-4
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-5-6
ABOUT COURTESANS-1-2
ABOUT COURTESANS-3-4
ABOUT COURTESANS-5-6
ABOUT THE MEANS OF ATTRACTING OTHERS TO YOURSELF-1-2
CONCLUDING REMARKS

III. Marriage 

 

 

 

 

17. Fundamental Motives 

 

 

How successful such a concealment may be is well displayed by the 

general acceptance of the notion that women are reluctant to enter 

into marriage--that they have to be persuaded to it by eloquence and 

pertinacity, and even by a sort of intimidation. The truth is that, in a 

world almost divested of intelligible idealism, and hence dominated by a 

senseless worship of the practical, marriage offers the best career that 

the average woman can reasonably aspire to, and, in the case of very 

many women, the only one that actually offers a livelihood. What is 

esteemed and valuable, in our materialistic and unintelligent society, 

is precisely that petty practical efficiency at which men are expert, 

and which serves them in place of free intelligence. A woman, save she 

show a masculine strain that verges upon the pathological, cannot hope 

to challenge men in general in this department, but it is always open to 

her to exchange her sexual charm for a lion's share in the earnings of 

one man, and this is what she almost invariably tries to do. That is 

to say, she tries to get a husband, for getting a husband means, in 

a sense, enslaving an expert, and so covering up her own lack of 

expertness, and escaping its consequences. Thereafter she has at least 

one stout line of defence against a struggle for existence in which the 

prospect of survival is chiefly based, not upon the talents that are 

typically hers, but upon those that she typically lacks. Before the 

average woman succumbs in this struggle, some man or other must succumb 

first. Thus her craft converts her handicap into an advantage. 

 

In this security lies the most important of all the benefits that a 

woman attains by marriage. It is, in fact, the most important benefit 

that the mind can imagine, for the whole effort of the human race, under 

our industrial society, is concentrated upon the attainment of it. But 

there are other benefits, too. One of them is that increase in dignity 

which goes with an obvious success; the woman who has got herself a 

satisfactory husband, or even a highly imperfect husband, is regarded 

with respect by other women, and has a contemptuous patronage for those 

who have failed to do likewise. Again, marriage offers her the only safe 

opportunity, considering the levantine view of women as property which 

Christianity has preserved in our civilization, to obtain gratification 

for that powerful complex of instincts which we call the sexual, and, in 


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