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Introduction
The Feminine Mind-1
The War Between the Sexes-2.1
The War Between the Sexes-2.2
The War Between the Sexes-2.3
Marriage-3.1
Marriage-3.2
Marriage-3.3
Marriage-3.4
Woman Suffrage-4.1
Woman Suffrage-4.2
Woman Suffrage-4.3
Woman Suffrage-4.4
The New Age-5.1
The New Age-5.2
The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana. INTRODUCTION
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-1-2
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-1-2
OF SEXUAL UNION-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-6-7-8
OF SEXUAL UNION-10-11
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-3-4-5
ABOUT A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-3-4
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-5-6
ABOUT COURTESANS-1-2
ABOUT COURTESANS-3-4
ABOUT COURTESANS-5-6
ABOUT THE MEANS OF ATTRACTING OTHERS TO YOURSELF-1-2
CONCLUDING REMARKS

from the start. His sentimental and unintelligent belief in theories 

that she knows quite well are not true--e.g., the theory that she 

shrinks from him, and is modestly appalled by the banal carnalities of 

marriage itself--gives her a weapon against him which she drives home 

with instinctive and compelling art. The moment she discerns this 

sentimentality bubbling within him--that is, the moment his oafish 

smirks and eye rollings signify that he has achieved the intellectual 

disaster that is called falling in love--he is hers to do with as she 

will. Save for acts of God, he is forthwith as good as married. 

 

 

 

 

7. The Feminine Attitude 

 

 

This sentimentality in marriage is seldom, if ever, observed in women. 

For reasons that we shall examine later, they have much more to gain by 

the business than men, and so they are prompted by their cooler sagacity 

to enter upon it on the most favourable terms possible, and with the 

minimum admixture of disarming emotion. Men almost invariably get 

their mates by the process called falling in love; save among the 

aristocracies of the North and Latin men, the marriage of convenience is 

relatively rare; a hundred men marry "beneath" them to every woman who 

perpetrates the same folly. And what is meant by this so-called falling 

in love? What is meant by it is a procedure whereby a man accounts for 

the fact of his marriage, after feminine initiative and generalship have 

made it inevitable, by enshrouding it in a purple maze of romance--in 

brief, by setting up the doctrine that an obviously self-possessed and 

mammalian woman, engaged deliberately in the most important adventure of 

her life, and with the keenest understanding of its utmost implications, 

is a naive, tender, moony and almost disembodied creature, enchanted and 

made perfect by a passion that has stolen upon her unawares, and which 

she could not acknowledge, even to herself, without blushing to death. 

By this preposterous doctrine, the defeat and enslavement of the man is 

made glorious, and even gifted with a touch of flattering naughtiness. 

The sheer horsepower of his wooing has assailed and overcome her maiden 

modesty; she trembles in his arms; he has been granted a free franchise 

to work his wicked will upon her. Thus do the ambulant images of God 

cloak their shackles proudly, and divert the judicious with their 

boastful shouts. 

 

Women, it is almost needless to point out, are much more cautious about 


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