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Introduction
The Feminine Mind-1
The War Between the Sexes-2.1
The War Between the Sexes-2.2
The War Between the Sexes-2.3
Marriage-3.1
Marriage-3.2
Marriage-3.3
Marriage-3.4
Woman Suffrage-4.1
Woman Suffrage-4.2
Woman Suffrage-4.3
Woman Suffrage-4.4
The New Age-5.1
The New Age-5.2
The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana. INTRODUCTION
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-1-2
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-1-2
OF SEXUAL UNION-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-6-7-8
OF SEXUAL UNION-10-11
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-3-4-5
ABOUT A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-3-4
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-5-6
ABOUT COURTESANS-1-2
ABOUT COURTESANS-3-4
ABOUT COURTESANS-5-6
ABOUT THE MEANS OF ATTRACTING OTHERS TO YOURSELF-1-2
CONCLUDING REMARKS

II. The War Between the Sexes 

 

 

 

6. How Marriages are Arranged 

 

 

I have said that women are not sentimental, i.e., not prone to permit 

mere emotion and illusion to corrupt their estimation of a situation. 

The doctrine, perhaps, will raise a protest. The theory that they are is 

itself a favourite sentimentality; one sentimentality will be brought 

up to substantiate another; dog will eat dog. But an appeal to a few 

obvious facts will be enough to sustain my contention, despite the vast 

accumulation of romantic rubbish to the contrary. 

 

Turn, for example, to the field in which the two sexes come most 

constantly into conflict, and in which, as a result, their habits of 

mind are most clearly contrasted--to the field, to wit, of monogamous 

marriage. Surely no long argument is needed to demonstrate the superior 

competence and effectiveness of women here, and therewith their greater 

self-possession, their saner weighing of considerations, their higher 

power of resisting emotional suggestion. The very fact that marriages 

occur at all is a proof, indeed, that they are more cool-headed than 

men, and more adept in employing their intellectual resources, for it is 

plainly to a man's interest to avoid marriage as long as possible, and 

as plainly to a woman's interest to make a favourable marriage as soon 

as she can. The efforts of the two sexes are thus directed, in one of 

the capital concerns of life, to diametrically antagonistic ends. Which 

side commonly prevails? I leave the verdict to the jury. All normal 

men fight the thing off; some men are successful for relatively long 

periods; a few extraordinarily intelligent and courageous men (or 

perhaps lucky ones) escape altogether. But, taking one generation with 

another, as every one knows, the average man is duly married and the 

average woman gets a husband. Thus the great majority of women, in 

this clear-cut and endless conflict, make manifest their substantial 

superiority to the great majority of men. 

 

Not many men, worthy of the name, gain anything of net value by 

marriage, at least as the institution is now met with in Christendom. 

Even assessing its benefits at their most inflated worth, they are 

plainly overborne by crushing disadvantages. When a man marries it is 

no more than a sign that the feminine talent for persuasion and 

intimidation--i.e., the feminine talent for survival in a world 

of clashing concepts and desires, the feminine competence and 

intelligence--has forced him into a more or less abhorrent compromise 


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