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Table of contents
Introduction
The Feminine Mind-1
The War Between the Sexes-2.1
The War Between the Sexes-2.2
The War Between the Sexes-2.3
Marriage-3.1
Marriage-3.2
Marriage-3.3
Marriage-3.4
Woman Suffrage-4.1
Woman Suffrage-4.2
Woman Suffrage-4.3
Woman Suffrage-4.4
The New Age-5.1
The New Age-5.2
The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana. INTRODUCTION
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-1-2
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-1-2
OF SEXUAL UNION-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-6-7-8
OF SEXUAL UNION-10-11
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-3-4-5
ABOUT A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-3-4
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-5-6
ABOUT COURTESANS-1-2
ABOUT COURTESANS-3-4
ABOUT COURTESANS-5-6
ABOUT THE MEANS OF ATTRACTING OTHERS TO YOURSELF-1-2
CONCLUDING REMARKS

that he has for her. She should never reveal her love for her husband, 

nor her husband's love for her to any person, either in pride or in 

anger, for a wife that reveals the secrets of her husband is despised by 

him. As for seeking to obtain the regard of her husband, Gonardiya says, 

that it should always be done in private, for fear of the elder wife. If 

the elder wife be disliked by her husband, or be childless, she should 

sympathize with her, and should ask her husband to do the same, but 

should surpass her in leading the life of a chaste woman. 

 

Thus ends the conduct of the younger wife towards the elder. 

 

A widow in poor circumstances, or of a weak nature, and who allies 

herself again to a man, is called a widow re-married. 

 

The followers of Babhravya say that a virgin widow should not marry a 

person whom she may be obliged to leave on account of his bad character, 

or of his being destitute of the excellent qualities of a man, she thus 

being obliged to have recourse to another person. Gonardya is of opinion 

that as the cause of a widow's marrying again is her desire for 

happiness, and as happiness is secured by the possession of excellent 

qualities in her husband, joined to love of enjoyment, it is better 

therefore to secure a person endowed with such qualities in the first 

instance. Vatsyayana however thinks that a widow may marry any person 

that she likes, and that she thinks will suit her. 

 

At the time of her marriage the widow should obtain from her husband the 

money to pay the cost of drinking parties, and picnics with her 

relations, and of giving them and her friends kindly gifts and presents; 

or she may do these things at her own cost if she likes. In the same way 

she may wear either her husband's ornaments or her own. As to the 

presents of affection mutually exchanged between the husband and herself 

there is no fixed rule about them. If she leaves her husband after 

marriage of her own accord, she should restore to him whatever he may 

have given her, with the exception of the mutual presents. If however 

she is driven out of the house by her husband she should not return 

anything to him. 

 

After her marriage she should live in the house of her husband like one 

of the chief members of the family, but should treat the other ladies of 

the family with kindness, the servants with generosity, and all the 

friends of the house with familiarity and good temper. She should show 


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