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Introduction
The Feminine Mind-1
The War Between the Sexes-2.1
The War Between the Sexes-2.2
The War Between the Sexes-2.3
Marriage-3.1
Marriage-3.2
Marriage-3.3
Marriage-3.4
Woman Suffrage-4.1
Woman Suffrage-4.2
Woman Suffrage-4.3
Woman Suffrage-4.4
The New Age-5.1
The New Age-5.2
The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana. INTRODUCTION
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-1-2
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-1-2
OF SEXUAL UNION-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-6-7-8
OF SEXUAL UNION-10-11
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-3-4-5
ABOUT A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-3-4
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-5-6
ABOUT COURTESANS-1-2
ABOUT COURTESANS-3-4
ABOUT COURTESANS-5-6
ABOUT THE MEANS OF ATTRACTING OTHERS TO YOURSELF-1-2
CONCLUDING REMARKS

CHAPTER III. 

 

ON COURTSHIP, AND THE MANIFESTATION OF THE FEELINGS BY OUTWARD SIGNS AND 

DEEDS. 

 

 

A poor man possessed of good qualities, a man born of a low family 

possessed of mediocre qualities, a neighbour possessed of wealth, and 

one under the control of his father, mother or brothers, should not 

marry without endeavouring to gain over the girl from her childhood to 

love and esteem them. Thus a boy separated from his parents, and living 

in the house of his uncle, should try to gain over the daughter of his 

uncle, or some other girl, even though she be previously betrothed to 

another. And this way of gaining over a girl, says Ghotakamukha, is 

unexceptional, because Dharma can be accomplished by means of it, as 

well as by any other way of marriage. 

 

When a boy has thus begun to woo the girl he loves, he should spend his 

time with her and amuse her with various games and diversions fitted for 

their age and acquaintanceship, such as picking and collecting flowers, 

making garlands of flowers, playing the parts of members of a fictitious 

family, cooking food, playing with dice, playing with cards, the game of 

odd and even, the game of finding out the middle finger, the game of six 

pebbles, and such other games as may be prevalent in the country, and 

agreeable to the disposition of the girl. In addition to this, he should 

carry on various amusing games played by several persons together, such 

as hide and seek, playing with seeds, hiding things in several small 

heaps of wheat and looking for them, blind-man's buff, gymnastic 

exercises, and other games of the same sort, in company with the girl, 

her friends and female attendants. The man should also show great 

kindness to any woman whom the girl thinks fit to be trusted, and should 

also make new acquaintances, but above all he should attach to himself 

by kindness and little services the daughter of the girl's nurse, for 

if she be gained over, even though she comes to know of his design, she 

does not cause any obstruction, but is sometimes even able to effect an 

union between him and the girl. And though she knows the true character 

of the man, she always talks of his many excellent qualities to the 

parents and relations of the girl, even though she may not be desired to 

do so by him. 

 

In this way the man should do whatever the girl takes most delight in, 

and he should get for her whatever she may have a desire to possess. 

Thus he should procure for her such playthings as may be hardly known to 


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