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Introduction
The Feminine Mind-1
The War Between the Sexes-2.1
The War Between the Sexes-2.2
The War Between the Sexes-2.3
Marriage-3.1
Marriage-3.2
Marriage-3.3
Marriage-3.4
Woman Suffrage-4.1
Woman Suffrage-4.2
Woman Suffrage-4.3
Woman Suffrage-4.4
The New Age-5.1
The New Age-5.2
The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana. INTRODUCTION
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-1-2
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-1-2
OF SEXUAL UNION-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-6-7-8
OF SEXUAL UNION-10-11
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-3-4-5
ABOUT A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-3-4
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-5-6
ABOUT COURTESANS-1-2
ABOUT COURTESANS-3-4
ABOUT COURTESANS-5-6
ABOUT THE MEANS OF ATTRACTING OTHERS TO YOURSELF-1-2
CONCLUDING REMARKS

and thus create confidence in the girl. Some authors say that for the 

purpose of winning her over he should not speak to her for three days, 

but the followers of Babhravya are of opinion that if the man does not 

speak with her for three days, the girl may be discouraged by seeing him 

spiritless like a pillar, and, becoming dejected, she may begin to 

despise him as an eunuch. Vatsyayana says that the man should begin to 

win her over, and to create confidence in her, but should abstain at 

first from sexual pleasures. Women being of a tender nature, want tender 

beginnings, and when they are forcibly approached by men with whom they 

are but slightly acquainted, they sometimes suddenly become haters of 

sexual connection, and sometimes even haters of the male sex. The man 

should therefore approach the girl according to her liking, and should 

make use of those devices by which he may be able to establish himself 

more and more into her confidence. These devices are as follows:-- 

 

He should embrace her first of all in a way she likes most, because it 

does not last for a long time. 

 

He should embrace her with the upper part of his body because that is 

easier and simpler. If the girl is grown up, or if the man has known 

her for some time, he may embrace her by the light of a lamp, but if he 

is not well acquainted with her, or if she is a young girl, he should 

then embrace her in darkness. 

 

When the girl accepts the embrace, the man should put a "tambula" or 

screw of betel nut and betel leaves in her mouth, and if she will not 

take it, he should induce her to do so by conciliatory words, 

entreaties, oaths, and kneeling at her feet, for it is an universal rule 

that however bashful or angry a woman may be, she never disregards a man 

kneeling at her feet. At the time of giving this "tambula" he should 

kiss her mouth softly and gracefully without making any sound. When she 

is gained over in this respect he should then make her talk, and so that 

she may be induced to talk he should ask her questions about things of 

which he knows or pretends to know nothing, and which can be answered in 

a few words. If she does not speak to him, he should not frighten her, 

but should ask her the same thing again and again in a conciliatory 

manner. If she does not then speak he should urge her to give a reply, 

because as Ghotakamukha says, "all girls hear everything said to them by 

men, but do not themselves sometimes say a single word." When she is 


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