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Table of contents
Introduction
The Feminine Mind-1
The War Between the Sexes-2.1
The War Between the Sexes-2.2
The War Between the Sexes-2.3
Marriage-3.1
Marriage-3.2
Marriage-3.3
Marriage-3.4
Woman Suffrage-4.1
Woman Suffrage-4.2
Woman Suffrage-4.3
Woman Suffrage-4.4
The New Age-5.1
The New Age-5.2
The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana. INTRODUCTION
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-1-2
THE VATSYAYANA SUTRA-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-1-2
OF SEXUAL UNION-3-4-5
OF SEXUAL UNION-6-7-8
OF SEXUAL UNION-10-11
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE-3-4-5
ABOUT A WIFE-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-1-2
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-3-4
ABOUT THE WIVES OF OTHER MEN-5-6
ABOUT COURTESANS-1-2
ABOUT COURTESANS-3-4
ABOUT COURTESANS-5-6
ABOUT THE MEANS OF ATTRACTING OTHERS TO YOURSELF-1-2
CONCLUDING REMARKS

PART III. 

 

ABOUT THE ACQUISITION OF A WIFE. 

 

 

 

 

CHAPTER I. 

 

ON MARRIAGE. 

 

 

When a girl of the same caste, and a virgin, is married in accordance 

with the precepts of Holy Writ, the results of such an union are: the 

acquisition of Dharma and Artha, offspring, affinity, increase of 

friends, and untarnished love. For this reason a man should fix his 

affections upon a girl who is of good family, whose parents are alive, 

and who is three years or more younger than himself. She should be born 

of a highly respectable family, possessed of wealth, well connected, and 

with many relations and friends. She should also be beautiful, of a good 

disposition, with lucky marks on her body, and with good hair, nails, 

teeth, ears, eyes, and breasts, neither more nor less than they ought to 

be, and no one of them entirely wanting, and not troubled with a sickly 

body. The man should, of course, also possess these qualities himself. 

But at all events, says Ghotakamukha, a girl who has been already joined 

with others (_i.e._, no longer a maiden) should never be loved, for it 

would be reproachable to do such a thing. 

 

Now in order to bring about a marriage with such a girl as described 

above, the parents and relations of the man should exert themselves, as 

also such friends on both sides as may be desired to assist in the 

matter. These friends should bring to the notice of the girl's parents, 

the faults, both present and future, of all the other men that may wish 

to marry her, and should at the same time extol even to exaggeration 

all the excellencies, ancestral, and paternal, of their friend, so as to 

endear him to them, and particularly to those that may be liked by the 

girl's mother. One of the friends should also disguise himself as an 

astrologer and declare the future good fortune and wealth of his friend 

by showing the existence of all the lucky omens[43] and signs,[44] the 

good influence of planets, the auspicious entrance of the sun into a 

sign of the Zodiac, propitious stars and fortunate marks on his body. 

Others again should rouse the jealousy of the girl's mother by telling 

her that their friend has a chance of getting from some other quarter 

even a better girl than hers. 

 

A girl should be taken as a wife, as also given in marriage, when 

fortune, signs, omens, and the words[45] of others are favourable, for, 

says Ghotakamukha, a man should not marry at any time he likes. A girl 

who is asleep, crying, or gone out of the house when sought in marriage, 


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